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You love each other.
Love isn't the issue. It's the connection that feels missing. You've had the conversations. One or both of you has promised to do better. Maybe you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, or even spent time in couples therapy. You both want things to be different.
And yet, somehow, you keep ending up in the same place. Different topics – parenting, sex, money, how someone said something – but the same outcome. Maybe one of you reaches, and the other pulls away. Or one of you gets louder, and the other shuts down. Or maybe it looks different than that – every couple has their own dance.
But you both leave feeling hurt, misunderstood, and even farther apart than when you started.
You're not broken.
We all have buttons, that when pushed, result in knee-jerk reactions we developed long before they become part of the thing we do in our relationships. Whatever your partner did, something comes up inside you that feels like an emergency, and you go into protection mode. A lot of couples come to me saying, "We just need to communicate better." Well, good luck communicating when your body is sending off all those alarm bells.
But listen – you two didn't choose the experiences that helped wire you that way. I'm willing to bet you're good people who desperately want to feel safe, and cared for, and close again, and you just need a bit of help. That help is here, and there is hope.
How I Work
I'm Kim Holloway, Founder of Relationship Reset (more about me), and I'm obsessed with relationships – because they create the most profound self-development and healing experience possible if we'll allow it. Every couple comes to me hoping I'll get their partner to change. And while that will likely happen, they're often most surprised to find out that change will require both of them both to own their contributions to the problem and go on a transformational journey.
The work looks different for every couple, because every relationship is different. But we begin by getting clear about what's actually happening between you, we excavate the truth from beneath your protective strategies, I walk you through the actual experience of how to heal, care for, and lead the tender parts of you that think your partner is the enemy, and finally – I help you learn and practice the skills you actually need to nurture deep, connected, beautiful intimacy together.
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I regularly spill the tea about my own life and share stories from my work about love, conflict, intimacy, family, attachment, and the beautifully messy work of learning how to love another imperfect human being. To receive my newsletter every couple of weeks, subscribe to the Relationship Reset Blog and be the first to know when new learning opportunities arise.
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Ready to Talk?
You don't have to know exactly what kind of help you need or decide whether coaching is right for you before we meet. A clarity call is simply a conversation – a chance for you to tell me what's been happening, ask whatever questions you have, and get a sense of whether I'm the right person to help.
If I think I can, I'll tell you how I recommend we begin. If I don't, I'll tell you that too. Either way, I hope you'll leave feeling a little less alone than when you arrived.
Exploring what it means to be love
If you enjoy contemplating love and relationships from both a practical and a philosophical/spiritual perspective, subscribe to my Substack publication, Conscious Love & Relationships, including the selections below.
Love as a Revolutionary Act
Love is not passive. It is not something that simply happens to us. It is an act of courage, an ongoing choice to see, honor, and celebrate the divine in another – even when ...
This is Urgent! Right?
If I had to choose one word to describe the knee-jerk feeling that arises in every aspect of my life—parenting, partnership, work, homeownership—it wouldn’t be a pleasant one: Urgency.
Have They 'Done the Work'?
We’re all hard to be with sometimes, no matter how much ‘work’ we’ve done.
You may be out there in search of a partner who has ‘done the work’ … but how do you know? 7 questions to help you discern...
When My Partner Disappoints Me
Couples often navigate conflicting desires and expectations. Sometimes one partner isn’t ready, willing, or able to make a change. And that can feel quite disappointing...